I had an interesting conversation with my kids last week at dinner. They were saying I love you to eachother and to me. Then Ricky asked Isabelle if she loved herself. She got quiet and said, "I don't know". So I said, "Well, I love myself". She gave me a weird look like, it's ok to love yourself?
I said, "Well, I have a bunch of people around me that love me so much, why wouldn't I love myself? I am important and mean a lot to people in different ways. And of coarse I am responsible for myself and live with myself everyday. Why wouldn't I love myself?"
She thought on this for a min and smiled then said, yes, she does love herself. :)
Seems to me the world is so stuck on saying you have to have this "will power" to fit into this mold, this idea where everyone has to strive to be a certain way in this world. No?
Where is our self esteem!? Where is the self love, self care? Where is SELF! in anything we do? Will power makes it sound as though we are supposed to sit there and move objects with our mind if we look real hard at that object.
Craziness! I don't want my kids having a low self esteem. I want them to be confident in themselves. I don't want them to struggle the way I have. I feel, looking back over the years, I wasted so much time trying move things with my mind and allowing my self esteem to hit its lowest.
Lets start spreading the word. You ever hear of the movie "Pay It Forward"? It's a really good movie. I love the message behind it. If one person helps 3 people and each of those 3 people help 3 other people themselves, just watch how fast something can spread just by that one person helping 3 people.
It's great, really. So I am helping my 3 people, actually 4, including helping mySELF!
You in?
Let's start this! Let's all start kicking up our self care, our self esteem, our self love. How about some self respect?
Keeping the number 3 in our minds, how about each day think of 3 positive things... doesn't have to be about that particular day, but bring light into your day, ya know. Compliment yourself often. Start treating yourself as you would treat some one you are close to, love, respect, and admire.
We aren't all perfect. Let's stop comparing one human to another. Be different! Be unique! It can be done and I so can't wait to see you shine!
You can start paying it forward just by helping others change their train of thought. If some one is all down on themselves, break out of your shell and be a lil bird (lil birdy told me).
Get involved with people... just start spreading the light. I would love to get more involved in my community somehow. I don't yet know how, but one day... who knows when... it could happen.
Not everyone has some one close to them where they could feel worth something, ya know. Maybe the nursing home, or a local boys and girls club. Heck, why not even at the gym? Leave a post-it note on the mirror in the locker room.
Think outside the box and let's all encourage and support one another.
I'm in! I love the way you are with your children, Jamie. What a wonderful example you set of self-love and acceptance. All children should be so lucky to have an adult in their life to teach them these values. You are doing good work in the world, my friend.
ReplyDeleteThanks Shani I have my moments 8) LOL
ReplyDeleteI'm in as well. Poor self esteem is the root of so many problems. I'd like to see a world where we are all compassionate to each other.
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